by LEX Tupas

Managing Expectations

We have certain expectations from our family, loved one, friends, gadgets, work, leaders, etc. This could be due to their reputation, image, hearsay, qualifications, positions held, promises made, etc. I don’t see anything wrong with having expectations but the problem is if we expect too much because it might lead to disappointments due to unmet expectations.
This unmet expectation situation has happened even in hyped movies that get the interest of the movie goers only to get bored of the movie when it is already showing. Same with a person you idolize or want to meet up and then you realize that the person isn’t all that. It also is the same with gadgets that are advertised with so many features and when you get one, it’s not as user friendly as you think it is. We then feel we’ve been misled, taken advantage of, made to believe something which isn’t true or we just fooled ourselves of believing such.
The feeling of disappointment some say could even lead to trauma or worse to depression. To avoid such, we have to learn to manage our own expectations and also to manage other people’s expectations. First, let us not believe in anything and everything we hear and what is told to us. Let us take some time to absorb what we have heard and then analyze the person or who said it. Know the person or the company’s background and get to know how the words were communicated. Screen it if it was said in jest or in a serious manner. Simply put, don’t take anything hook line and sinker. Second, as much as possible, let us not rely too much on other people. Let us make decisions for ourselves and take the initiative to make sure things are done well by doing research and follow ups. As such, we avoid situations of disappointment as well. Third, on our end, let us not promise something we couldn’t keep as this will affect our integrity and reputation. Whatever happens, as much as possible, keep your word. Finally, let us not believe in hearsay, paper qualifications and image. They may be good to know but actions and face to face situations will truly show what is real. Some of it might just be made up or built up but it falls short of expectations.
Sa akun sitwasyon bilang konsehal sang Syudad, damu ang nagtinguha sadto kag asta subong, nga magtanum ekspektasyon sobra sobra ang kadam-an sa akun, para abi mangin imposible nga maubra or malab-ot ko ang akon mga handum, o kundi gani, para madula-an tawo gana sa akun. Gapasalamat lang ako sa kadam-an sang mga Ilonggo nga wala nagpati pati or nagpadala. Ginatinguha ko gid nga tumanon tanan ko nga hinambalan. Wala ko gapromisa kung di ko matuman or masarangan. Ang pangayu ko lang sa mga tawo, kay kasubong na konsehal lang ako, di ta pa masarangan ang iban nga bagay pareho sa mga paubra infrastructure, mga plete kag inuggastos ka mga garepresenta sa Syudad, mga inugbayad sa hospital kag palubong, kag iban pa. Basi makabulig bulig lang gamay pero di ta ya kahatag sang tanan. Ang akon pwesto wala kapasidad nga makahatag pondo para maibuylog ko para sa mga amu na nga butang. Gapati ako masmaayu maging pranka kag tuod kita sa mga ginaserbisyuhan natun sang sa pasaligun sila sa wala.
UGYON Kabataang Ilonggo. UGYON Iloilo. Ilonggos are worth working and fighting for. For comments and/or suggestions, email councilorlextupas@yahoo.com. This also serves